How do we Define Love?
"God is Love", but how do we define it? The American Heritage
Dictionary defines love as "an intense affection for another person
based on familial or personal ties". Often this "intense affection"
stems from a sexual attraction for that other person. We love other
people, or we say we love other people, when we are attracted to them
and when they make us feel good. Notice that a key phrase in the
dictionary definition of love is the phrase "based on". This phrase
implies that we love conditionally; in other words, we love someone
because they fulfill a condition that we require before we can love
them. How many times have you heard or said, "I love you because you
are cute;" or "I love you because you take good care of me;" or "I
love you because you are fun to be with"?
Our love is not only conditional, it is also mercurial. We love based
on feelings and emotions that can change from one moment to the next.
The divorce rate is extremely high in today's society because husbands
and wives supposedly stop loving one another-or they "fall out of
love". They may go through a rough patch in their marriage, and they
no longer "feel" love for their spouse, so they call it quits.
Evidently, their marriage vow of "till death do us part" means they
can part at the death of their love for their spouse rather than at
their physical death.
Can anyone really comprehend "unconditional" love? It seems the love
that parents have for their children is as close to unconditional love
as we can get without the help of God's love in our lives. We continue
to love our children through good times and bad, and we don't stop
loving them if they don't meet the expectations we may have for them.
We make a choice to love our children even when we consider them
unlovable; our love doesn't stop when we don't "feel" love for them.
This is similar to God's love for us, but as we shall see, God's love
transcends the human definition of love to a point that is hard for us
God is Love: How does God Define Love?
The Bible tells us that "God is Love" (1 John 4:8). But how can we
even begin to understand that truth? There are many passages in the
Bible that give us God's definition of love. The most well known verse
is John 3:16, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only
begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but
have everlasting life." So one way God defines love is in the act of
giving. However, what God gave (or should we say, "who" God gave) was
not a mere gift-wrapped present; God sacrificed His only Son so that
we, who put our faith in His Son, will not spend eternity separated
from Him. This is an amazing love, because we are the ones who choose
to be separated from God through our own sin, yet it's God who mends
the separation through His intense personal sacrifice, and all we have
to do is accept His gift.
Another great verse about God's love is found in Romans 5:8, "But God
commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners,
Christ died for us." In this verse and in John 3:16, we find no
conditions placed on God's love for us. God doesn't say, "as soon as
you clean up your act, I'll love you; " nor does He say, "I'll
sacrifice my Son if you promise to love Me." In fact, in Romans 5:8,
we find just the opposite. God wants us to know that His love is
unconditional, so He sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to die for us while
we were still unlovable sinners. We didn't have to get clean, and we
didn't have to make any promises to God before we could experience His
love. His love for us has always existed, and because of that, He did
all the giving and sacrificing long before we were even aware that we
needed His love.
God is Love: It's Unconditional
God is Love, and His love is very different from human love. God's
love is unconditional, and it's not based on feelings or emotions. He
doesn't love us because we're lovable or because we make Him feel
good; He loves us because He is love. He created us to have a loving
relationship with Him, and He sacrificed His own Son (who also
willingly died for us) to restore that relationship.
God is Love: How Should we Define Love?
When the Scriptures say, "God is love," they aren't telling us that
God is some nebulous, warm fuzzy feeling of love. The writers who
penned the scriptures weren't saying that in our limited form of human
love we will find God. Not at all, in fact, when we read that God is
love in the Bible, this means that God defines love. And when we say
that God defines love, we don't mean that He defines it like Webster
might define something -- we mean that God is the very definition of
love itself. There is no such thing as love without God. As hard as we
might try, we cannot define love outside of knowing God. This
essentially means that our human definition of love is false.
God is the Creator of all things, and by His very nature, He is love.
God says love is unconditional and sacrificial, and it's not based on
feelings; therefore, love is not an "intense affection… based on
familial or personal ties". To understand what true love is and to be
able to truly love others, we must know God, and we can do this
through a close personal relationship with Him. We can have that close
relationship with God by putting our faith in Jesus Christ, who was
God's sacrifice of love for us.
God is Love: True Love Only Comes Through a Relationship With Him
God is Love! As such, true love: God's love can be summed up in this
passage of scripture:
"Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one
that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not
knoweth not God; for God is love. In this was manifested the love of
God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the
world, that we might live through him. Herein is love, not that we
loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the
propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also
to love one another."
1 John 4:7-11
If you want to know this love, true love, get to know God. He is ready
to pour out His love on you, and He wants to teach you how to love
others as He loves you.