I never had a sister, but my sons have one, which means I have a daughter.
Now, our oldest son is two years younger than our daughter, who is the
oldest, but it was interesting to see as I watched their relationship what
I had missed growing up. Oh, there was a lot of kidding around; the kids
called it "busting." They had some exciting disagreements growing up
because, well, they're two very different people.
There were some hugs, there was some advice, there was sometimes some
conflict, but one thing was really clear in that relationship - no one had
ever better do my son's sister wrong. Even though he's two years younger,
he was her personal - I'm going to make up a word here - "look-out-forer."
I'm looking out for her! In fact, when any guy wanted to date her, he
first had to pass my son's very high requirements. Oh, he's younger, but
he was his sister's protector. Now, if you're a sister, it's nice to have a brother like that.
I'm Ron Hutchcraft, and I want to have A Word With You today about "Every
Sister Needs a Brother."
Now, our word for today from the Word of God comes from 1 Timothy 5, and
I'm going to be reading verse 2. It's a road map for relationships
between, well, men and women in general, but particularly between young
men and young women. He is addressing Timothy, who is a young man, and
Paul says, "Treat the younger men as brothers, the older women as
mothers," and then get this part, "and treat the younger women as sisters
with absolute purity."
Now, if you grow up in our culture today, that's not the message you're
getting. Oh, no, our culture says, "Hey, if you're a young man, treat the
younger woman as a conquest; as a lover." But that's not God's design. He
says, "Treat the younger women as sisters." Now, what does that mean? Does
that mean you tease them all the time? Does that mean you argue with them,
which brothers and sisters are known to do? No. Do you know what I think
it's referring to?
See, the love of a brother for a sister is, after all is said and done,
protective love. It's like my son and daughter, "I'm not going to let
anything happen to you that could hurt you, Sis." That's how young men are
supposed to view young women. Not as targets, not as conquests, not as
things to use.
That's why it says, "Treat them with absolute purity" so you won't hurt
them. You're supposed to guard your sister. That means you look at the
women around you and say, "I will not use you. I will not push you for
physical involvement. I won't even think about taking your greatest gift
from you - your virginity. I won't let my mind wander into scenes where I
reduce you to being a thing. I will guard your reputation, sister. I will
guard your purity. I will guard your character." Now, that's manhood! And
you know what? Ask a lot of young women today, and they'll tell you there
is a critical shortage of that kind of man.
See, what happens is you begin to say, "I'm going to develop some sisters
here." So, you begin to develop friendships, and not just romances. And
that becomes more important than just a passionate romance. You open the
door to some real legitimate closeness, and really getting to know
somebody. And you do that by finally throwing your sexual agenda out the
Now, if you're a woman, by the way you dress, the way you act, the way you
talk, the way you move, encourage this kind of relationship. Remember the
kind of bait you offer determines the kind of catch you get. Act like you
want brothers. Act like you want guys who will be friends, not users; not
conquerors. And men, cultivate sisters; a level of sharing and caring that
the sexual conquerors will never even get close to. Treat her like family.
She's your sister, man! And every sister needs a brother.