Find a church congregation that believes in confession. Avoid a fellowship of perfect people—you won’t fit in anyway. Seek one where members confess their sins and show humility, where the price of admission is simply an admission of guilt.
Healing happens in a church like this. Jesus said, “If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you retain the sins of any, they are retained.” (Matthew 6:14-15). Jesus also said, “If we say we have no sin, we’re fooling ourselves, and the truth is not in us. But if we confess our sins, he will forgive our sins, because we can trust God to do what’s right. He will cleanse us from all the wrongs we have done.” (I John 1:8-10)
Not— He might cleanse us, He could, would, or has been known to cleanse us. He WILL cleanse us! Oh the sweet certainty of His words!