So many of us believe that we are always right. In a marriage it is a two way street between husband and wife. God wants us to work together to bring the strengths of each other to the table working and solving problems. All married couples were created to solve a problem in their marriage relationship They must discover the answer to these questions. What is my assignment in this marriage? How do I fulfill this assignment? If a wife or husband don’t understand their God given assignments in their marriages, they will always be fighting with each other for position and control. Their lives become perpetual wrestling match to find out who will be the one who runs the marriage. As a result the couple never enjoy their relationship, and all because they don’t understand their assignments 1 Samuel 15:17 [‘You were once humble in your own eyes’], Samuel speaks about Saul being humble in the past, he changed once he became king.. Saul was becoming like the prophet, so he changed, but God did not call him to be that, he called him to be king, with his humilty and all. God was sorry He made Saul king because he tried to assume a position God had never called Him to fill Also never take your spouse for granted that you bypass his or her position in your life A husband might say’ Oh it will be fine if I do this, my wife wont mind if I do this, if I will not tell her, or vice versa.. Bypassing each other’s authority shows disrespect When a husband stops being the leader of the home, or doesn’t know how to lead a relationship, it leaves a gap for the wife to rule [this a NO NO], wives cant help it because we were all made to rule, especially after the greatest sin ever. Husbands take note you are the leaders of the home, there is no escaping this, MEN need to take that place of authority in the house, then relationships will be restored Wives please take note you were not made to rule, but to be submissive and supportive Please take note that if these positions are not in the right place, chaos happens, its not the end of marriage, it just challenges men and women to come out of their comfort zones. Men that are not leaders are not weak, they just need their wives understanding and prayers to be supportive. GOD ANSWERS THE PRAYER OF PRAYING WIVES Don’t ruin the only chance that God has given you to be happy with your spouse, just because both of you want to rule, there is place/time for each one of you MIRACLE; In these situations is when you assume your position respectively, WOW your life changes, open doors of opportunities are opened for each, all of sudden things run smoothly and we have time to be ourselves PLEASE DON’T TAKE EACH OTHER FOR GRANTED I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. Eph 4:1-3
Did you know that honey bees cannot live in isolation? You always keep bees; you never keep a single bee. If you isolate a bee, you can give it the most favourable temperature, you can give it plenty of water and plenty of food, but the bee will die within two to three days. There is something about the community of bees that keeps individual bees alive. You can keep bees, but you cannot keep a bee. In a sense that is also true of the church - We need each other to grow and to survive. But, most of all we need Jesus. May we in this New Year serve and help one another in Love. As 2 Peter 1:5-7 states it: For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. If you want 1 year of wisdom, talk to a wise person.
If you want 10 years of wisdom, go to college. If you want 100 years of wisdom, read history. If you want 1000 years of wisdom, grow your faith. Looking Ahead Forgetting those things which are behind..., I press toward the goal. -Philippians 3:13-14 When the idea is not right, God says,"No."
No - when the idea is not the best. No - when the idea is absolutely wrong. No - when though it may help you, it could create problems for someone else. When the time is not right, God says, "Slow." What a catastrophe it would be if God answered every prayer at the snap of your fingers. Do you know what would happen? God would become your servant, not your master. Suddenly God would be working for you instead of you working for God. Remember: God's delays are not God's denials. God's timing is perfect. Patience is what we need in prayer. When you are not right, God says, "Grow." The selfish person has to grow in unselfishness. The cautious person must grow in courage. The timid person must grow in confidence. The dominating person must grow in sensitivity. The critical person must grow in tolerance. The negative person must grow in positive attitudes. The pleasure-seeking person must grow in compassion for suffering people. When everything is all right, God says, "Go." Then miracles happen: ....A hopeless alcoholic is set free! ....A drug addict finds release! ....A doubter becomes as a child in his belief. ....Diseased tissue responds to treatment, and healing begins. ....The door to your dream suddenly swings open and there stands God saying, "Go!" "I want men everywhere to lift up holy hands in prayer, without anger or disputing." (1 Timothy 2:8) "No problem can withstand the assault of sustained thinking." ~ Voltaire
"Too often we...enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought." ~ John F. Kennedy "If everyone is thinking alike, then somebody isn't thinking." ~ George S. Patton "Mental fight means thinking against the current, not with it." ~ Viriginia Woolf ** You are strong...when you take your grief and teach it to smile.
** You are brave...when you overcome your fear and help others to do the same. ** You are happy...when you see a flower and are thankful for the blessing. ** You are loving...when your own pain does not blind you to the pain of others. ** You are wise...when you know the limits of your wisdom. ** You are true...when you admit there are times you fool yourself. ** You are alive...when tomorrows hope means more to you than yesterday's mistake. ** You are growing...when you know what you are but not what you will become.. ** You are free...when you are in control of yourself and do not wish to control others. ** You are honourable...when you find your honour is to honour others. ** You are generous...when you can take as sweetly as you can give. ** You are humble...when you do not know how humble you are. ** You are thoughtful...when you see me just as I am and treat me just as you are. ** You are merciful...when you forgive in others the faults you condemn in yourself. ** You are beautiful...when you don't need a mirror to tell you. ** You are rich...when you never need more than what you have. ** You are you...when you are at peace with who you are not. Lets look at the problems that resulted when Eve took the lead. Instead of the beautiful relationship God had created between man and woman, fear and insecurity now ruled
Before the fall. The first man and woman had no walls built up between them. Nothing prevented them from enjoying the deepest fellowship with one another. No wrong attitudes hindered them from being open. They never slipped away from one another because they were not ashamed of each other in any way Excellent marriage partners continually work on tearing down every wall that separates them Now you may always be truthful, but that doesn’t mean you are always transparent. You know you cannot lie, so you tell the truth. But at the same time , you are not always open with your spouse. Why not? Because in one way or another you fear the outcome. You don’t want to think of what may happen if you say what you really feeling. The truth is some couples live their entire Marriage lives together and never truly communicate with each other. Perhaps at one point or another early in their marriage, one spouse reacted with anger when the other finally became transparent and told the truth, as result the spouse who attempted to be open and transparent decided never to do it again Genesis 3:7 {When Adam and Eve sinned, they place fig leaves around them to hide from God In Marriage this is fear, insecurity, low selfesteem Friends all of us are created unique and special, ask God to help you come to place where you accept yourself as you are, then you will have the confidence to encourage each other within your Marriage It is hard to find people who will be faithful. People that will stick to you even when they found out you are not perfect. The bible says a friend loves at all times and is born as a brother for adversity Proverbs 17:17. God remains faithful even when we are faithless 2 Tim 2:13 that is how God wants us to be. Even if we feel we are the only one who apologizes or try to do the right thing, keep on doing it keep on bearing the fruit of faithfulness
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