"Seek from the book of the Lord, and read..." Isaiah 34:16
There are books, radio programs, and numerous talk shows that urge us to take a look at who we are and then change ourselves by our determined will.
Have you tried all that information and yet you're still discouraged by repeating the same old habits?
God has a plan for us that goes beyond our abilities. It's something supernatural. It comes through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, who supernaturally changes us where we can't change ourselves. As a bonus to that faith, He promises us victory over death, and eternal life. If you really want to help yourself, look beyond yourself to the only One who can save you and give you the ultimate victory--Jesus Christ.